Post by TaQuilla on Jun 19, 2007 8:23:12 GMT -5
The generous wife is a website (link is at the bottom) where you can sign up to get email daily tips on how to be more generous and loving, etc., toward your husband. If you don't like getting daily emails you can also go to the site and see the tips each day. Here's an example (today's emailed tip):
Tuesday June 19, 2007
Do you have internal rules? You know, the kind that says you can't go to bed until the towels are folded and neatly hung up. Now please understand I'm not knocking neatness or those things that make you feel a sense of accomplishment in your homes. What I'm suggesting is that the inner rules we have for us are just that, they are rules for us ... not for our husbands.
We can ask our husbands to respect our work and things that are important to us, but when we try to push our rules on them, they may feel disrespected and generally hurt. They are adults and have their own set of inner rules and values that are important to them.
The ideal thing, of course, is to communicate and find ways of accommodating each other's internal rules, but as a first step, take the time to watch your speech and actions to make sure that you are not trying to subtly shape your husband with your inner rules.
It's perfectly fine to spend your energy on what is of value to you, just understand that your husband may not feel the same and needs to be respected despite the fact that he has different values and desires.
Love your neighbor (husband?) as yourself. Matthew 22:39b NIV
Think generous! Lori <><
Copyright © 2001-2007 Lori J. Byerly
All Rights Reserved
www.the-generous-wife.com
Just thought I'd share...
Tuesday June 19, 2007
Do you have internal rules? You know, the kind that says you can't go to bed until the towels are folded and neatly hung up. Now please understand I'm not knocking neatness or those things that make you feel a sense of accomplishment in your homes. What I'm suggesting is that the inner rules we have for us are just that, they are rules for us ... not for our husbands.
We can ask our husbands to respect our work and things that are important to us, but when we try to push our rules on them, they may feel disrespected and generally hurt. They are adults and have their own set of inner rules and values that are important to them.
The ideal thing, of course, is to communicate and find ways of accommodating each other's internal rules, but as a first step, take the time to watch your speech and actions to make sure that you are not trying to subtly shape your husband with your inner rules.
It's perfectly fine to spend your energy on what is of value to you, just understand that your husband may not feel the same and needs to be respected despite the fact that he has different values and desires.
Love your neighbor (husband?) as yourself. Matthew 22:39b NIV
Think generous! Lori <><
Copyright © 2001-2007 Lori J. Byerly
All Rights Reserved
www.the-generous-wife.com
Just thought I'd share...